Rightsizing

At one time, my wife and I both worked. A few years ago she lost her job and has not returned to the rat race since. We agreed that she would stay home with the kids and wish we could have done this sooner. It is truly a blessing indeed. The home we have been living on was purchased with two incomes with the realistic possibility that I could still do it myself but things would be tight.

When we owned our first house we were up to our eyeballs in debt. Using Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover plan, I was able to break free of all debt except for the mortgage. Continue reading “Rightsizing”

My 2015 Goals

If I had 2014 goals, I cannot say that I remember them nor any from the prior years. By publicly writing out my goals, I will have a record to look back on next year and I will have sense of accountability to maintain them. Documenting these goals forms the basis of a plan that will be a road map for decision making in the new year. Personal goals are like setting a mission and our resulting actions should be to support that mission.

Not writing goals down makes it much harder to follow them. The truth of the matter is, life happens, distractions occur and this is why resolutions made at the beginning of a new year are laughable by many. Continue reading “My 2015 Goals”

Rebuilding my About Page

There is a big elephant in the room that I have been avoiding, which is updating my about page. It is important to write a good About page, as it is by far the most visited page of any blog. This will give my audience a chance to connect with me as a person to let everyone know that I am also a human being as well.

Over the years, I have changed my about page to tell a deeper story, then sometimes I scale it back to being less personal. I go through phases where I want to open myself to others, then I draw back a bit. As I have gotten more involved in the blogger and WordPress community, I have come back out of my shell a bit more. Continue reading “Rebuilding my About Page”

Reboot Sequence Initiated

Over the past few days, I have been challenged to take an introspective look at myself as to exploring my strong desire for writing and how to do it best. I have blown off the dust of this old blog that has been around for a few years and began adding more content to it. I’ve concluded that I suffered from a sheer lack of focus.

What kind of blog did I want? I did not really know, I just threw whatever against the wall and was curious what would stick. This blog is in my own name, and I feel like I am such a diverse person with so many interests, Sup-a-Dillie-O summed it best:

…but I want to write about EVERYTHINGZZZZ!!!!!

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Why I Write

I love to create, much like photography, writing allows me to do that. From a young age I never used to like reading or writing. I spent a lot of time watching television and rotting my brain. Thankfully, one day I woke up and realized that there is more to life then being a slave to a device that aggressively robs the mind of an imagination. Now, I read both technical and fiction, thinking to myself, I can do this. I have the desire to author my own book someday.

For the time being, my focus is my family and cautiously growing and maintaining a career without putting the wife and kids in the back seat. As men, we have tendency to get carried away with building our legacy. When I’m lying on my death bed I doubt I’ll be wishing I would have worked more. Continue reading “Why I Write”

Success or Happiness

In this day in age, in America we begin life forced into a mold. Our parents, truly do the best they can to give their children a “better life” than they had to insure success. Our public schools lead us to believe that in order to be successful you must concentrate on being good at working for someone else. Society would lead you to believe that you are not successful unless you have material objects others can only dream of. When you become a parent, you begin the cycle anew.

Parents, who follow the traditions of what they grew up with, employ a vision that sometimes makes up for a lack of what they were able to achieve. Some parents want their kids to go to college because they never got a chance to. Some parents want their children to become great at sports, win beauty pageants or become famous actors. While it is great for parents to expose their children to as many things as possible, forcing them to fulfill things that they want may not be the key to their happiness.

Children are not really concerned about planning for the future, and simply want to live for the moment. Pressuring your kids for tomorrow may give them direction, but could very well instill them with a perpetual feeling of anxiety. Kids just want to have fun, and not worry about being forced into being the next child star athlete or the smartest person in school. It is no wonder that child abuse rates usual peak around the time when report cards are coming out from school. Teachers in school target children who seem to march to the beat of a different drummer due to the way their mind processes information. These children, lead by well meaning parents who want the best for them are forced into doctors offices and doped up on cocaine derivative drugs to cure a fake diseases like “attention deficit disorder”.

As adults, we may still constantly driven by how we were raised. Especially in times of uncertainty, we may tend to fall back on the original path laid out by what our parents designated as right or wrong for us. Basically, it’s like falling back on our life training as a guide on how to live our lives. As an alternative, the bible provides a guide to live a life devoted to god. Which pretty much dictates that you live like a monk. In reality, as long as you have what you need and keep your focus on Christ, what more should you need?

Public schools, which most people in America have attended are government run institutions with liberal agendas. They lead you into believing that in order to be a success that you have to finish school then finish some more school so you can prepare yourself to work for someone else. They do not emphasize on how to be a leader nor even properly budget for personal finances. Our future generations are being setup to be drones to work for others, because they believe that’s what makes you a success.

Society forces you to believe that the bigger the house or the nicer the car you drive, that makes you a success. This belief of conspicuous consumption or “Keeping up with the Joneses” has lead people to an empty shell of stress and to become slaves to a system. After the newness of that big house wears off, its a pain in the butt to stay on top of that pool, cleaning multiple bathrooms, vacuuming and dusting a bunch of extra square footage that you may only use once a year.

Children, just want to spend time with their parents and feel loved. Not everyone wants to work for someone else and needs the support of others when they want to venture out into running their own business. When material possessions begin to own you, that perceived success quickly turns into heart ache. No one can dictate your happiness, and you should not dictate what makes someone else happy. Happiness lies in what your heart, you should not be afraid to explore that and follow your dreams without fear of being judged.

About the photo:

This picture was taken close to a vacant building which sits adjacent to interstate 4 in Altamonte Springs, Florida. This building is owned by a religious broadcasting station that is funding the project with straight cash.